Only time for a short post…
We continue to be supportive to our recent house guest who is dealing with the impending death of his mom. He is living in her home, taking care of the grade school age sister, and he has really stepped up to the plate in that regard. However they live 30 min from the hospital and have no transportation, so we have worked into our daily schedule the drive to get them to the hospital and back. It makes for a long day before you add the mental toll of trying to help him through all the decisions that have to be made. There is an aunt, his mom’s sister, who has not been involved in their lives, but who is insisting that the kids take mom home, instead of a residential hospice. SHEESH.
We always have folks in our lives who know what is “RIGHT” for us. Those folks don’t seem to be around to pick up the pieces when things go wrong. Mom has a few weeks at best. Hospice will come to the house, but having been thru two hospice at home deaths with my parents, surrounded by adult siblings…I am not sure these kids are ready for this. Not ready for death at all, but to be at home alone… I just don’t see it. The disease has already wracked her brain. She has very little long term memory and no short term… AT ALL. I suggested he tell the helpful relatives that Mom deserves better care than he and a 12yr old can give.
These are not folks by the way who could help get the kids to the hospital, who could spend much time visiting with mom…they are just helping him make ‘good’ decisions. Grrrr.
Today, he and a friend will look at a nursing home that is only 3 miles from his house. I’m hoping they can be at peace with this. The kid deserves a break.